Well I am finally feeling better. I am not coughing too much anymore and glad to have most of my energy back. Especially since it is spring break and Clay is home from school for 10 days. 7 more to go. He had us put two fake nails on him today. Morgan had a couple of friends over and they put fake nails on so he wanted a couple. LOL
A friend from co-op shared with me that her 18 year old daughter moved in with her 26 year old boy friend. She of course is devastated. She has been on my mind ever since her mom shared with me. I had talked to this girl before about some choices she was making and I shared with her how as a teenager I made some poor choices and I just prayed that she would seek the Lord before she did anything. She told me over and over again how she could not wait until she was 18 so that she could do whatever she wanted to do. It just breaks my heart.
Cole got his test results back from the ACT. He did not do well at all. He has such a poor attitude about it. He just keeps on saying "well I can take it as many times as I want" I hope that it will sink in that he needs to be serious about it and buckle down and study and also he needs to take advantage of the accommodations that I got him and not try to prove that he can do everything at the same pace that others can. He is just not serious about anything except world of warcraft. He seems to have a lot of ambitions in life but has no clue how much work and determination it is going to take him to achieve his goals. I want so much for him to do well in school and life but I am having a really hard time with it because he seems to not even want to put forth any effort.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
The Flu and Clay
The last few days have been very tough and emotional for me. On top of having the flu Clay has had a couple of difficult days in school. They are testing this week (reading) I guess I did not understand that he would not be tested at all. I thought that he would be tested with a one on one situation. He came home from school on Monday in a bad mood and told me that he spent the day with a teacher, he does not even know that well, and they played board games. Okay well I decided not to get too upset about just one day wasted, but when he came home on Tuesday and told me the same thing I was upset. To top that off one leg of his pants (the inside) was covered with blood. Clay is a picker. Not just like normal kids who pick off scabs he picks for the same reason that teens cut. It is a release for him. He can't stop until he is bleeding and he has a very high tolerance for pain.
This morning I decided to keep him home. He was running a really low grade fever (whose to say that is not from the sores he has caused up and down his legs) I emailed his special ed teacher, the school counselor, his case manager and the principle of his school to let them know about the picking. Clay's picking has been very sever at times and until about a little over a year ago I did not realize how serious it was. His teacher email me back, I could tell she was upset with my email, but I appreciated her getting back with me. She told me when he is with her she controls the situation. This is an ongoing problem with Ms. Zenner (his special ed teacher) she can control him and he works great for her and very rarely has problems with her. I am sure you are wondering why this is a problem, well the problem comes when she is not with him. We have been pushing for a behavior plan for a year now and the school is still dragging it's feet. His case manager is so on the same page with us on this. She has talked to Ms Zenner about it a couple of times and gets the same resistance.
Then this afternoon I got a packet in the mail from the SCDDO (Sedgwick County Developmental Disabled Organization). Clay has qualified for long term resources. Even though this is what we want (because we know that we need to have those in place before he is a young adult) it is really hard to read yet again from another independent psychiatrist that your child is labeled as MR/DD (mentally retarded and developmentally delayed).
God grant me the patients, love, mercy and grace to show others that you continue to show me day after day, hour after hour, minute after minute.
This morning I decided to keep him home. He was running a really low grade fever (whose to say that is not from the sores he has caused up and down his legs) I emailed his special ed teacher, the school counselor, his case manager and the principle of his school to let them know about the picking. Clay's picking has been very sever at times and until about a little over a year ago I did not realize how serious it was. His teacher email me back, I could tell she was upset with my email, but I appreciated her getting back with me. She told me when he is with her she controls the situation. This is an ongoing problem with Ms. Zenner (his special ed teacher) she can control him and he works great for her and very rarely has problems with her. I am sure you are wondering why this is a problem, well the problem comes when she is not with him. We have been pushing for a behavior plan for a year now and the school is still dragging it's feet. His case manager is so on the same page with us on this. She has talked to Ms Zenner about it a couple of times and gets the same resistance.
Then this afternoon I got a packet in the mail from the SCDDO (Sedgwick County Developmental Disabled Organization). Clay has qualified for long term resources. Even though this is what we want (because we know that we need to have those in place before he is a young adult) it is really hard to read yet again from another independent psychiatrist that your child is labeled as MR/DD (mentally retarded and developmentally delayed).
God grant me the patients, love, mercy and grace to show others that you continue to show me day after day, hour after hour, minute after minute.
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